How Heavy is Your Glass of Water ?
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?” Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a… problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.” It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!
The ABC OF ANGER MANAGEMENT
Have you ever tried this quick Evaluation tool to examine a situation when you felt so angry and maybe out of control ?
Have a look at this and see what you think
A = The Antecedent , the activating event ,What do think happened ?
B = Beliefs = What did you tell yourself ? How did you behave ? Think and feel ?
C= Consequence = What was the outcome ?
Were you happy with the outcome ? If not consider looking at the situation in another way, perhaps from another persons perspective (even if you don’t agree).
Would it have made you think and feel differently? Would you have behaved differently ? If so in what way ?
Would that have changed the outcome for the better ?
Just a little tip for the day,
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